On sucking cock

It is quite probable that most men enjoy having their cock sucked and derive great pleasure from receiving fellatio. Yet, despite the pleasure they derive from it, they tend to vilify anyone who gives oral pleasure to a man. The term cocksucker is almost always meant as an insult regardless of whether the cocksucker is male or female. Being called a cocksucker is rarely taken as a compliment.

While the vilification of the fellator by the receiver can casually be attributed to Western culture’s religiously inspired guilt and shame of experiencing pleasure, I think it goes much deeper than that. I suspect that this vilification is rooted in a man’s fear of being seen as vulnerable and his fear of relinquishing power and control even for a moment. When a man receives a blow job he is very vulnerable. That part of his body that he considers to be the essence of his masculinity is in the mouth of another which can be potentially dangerous and emasculating, both physically and emotionally. No other sexual act exposes him to this degree of vulnerability.

Additionally, the fellator temporarily has total control of the penis (and the man) he or she is sucking. The fellator has the potential to subject a man to either exquisite and indescribable pleasure or to incredible and intense pain although pleasure is usually the objective of fellatio. The skillful fellator also has total control over the recipient’s orgasm.

Despite the obvious vulnerability, most men will temporarily and willfully relinquish their power in order to experience great sexual pleasure and subsequently ejaculate in or on the fellator. In his submission he will often still cling to the illusion of his dominance and that his fellator is his conquest and the ultimate receiver of his seed. The fellator is often seen by the one being fellated as a mere receptacle for his seed. Once he’s reached orgasm, he may feel guilty because he has relinquished his power and the fellator becomes the object of the recipient’s scorn for having allowed himself a moment of vulnerability.

On a related note, many heterosexual men have an aversion to being anally penetrated even for an essential medical procedure such as a prostate exam or a colonoscopy. Men see themselves as penetrators and conquerors. The idea of being penetrated either anally or orally implies submission and vulnerability, and therefore, weakness. Allowing himself to be penetrated also implies a loss of masculinity, not just for him but, by inference, all men. Maybe that plays a role in the vilification and hatred of homosexuals.

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Author: Rick

I'm a simple man, trying to make my way in the universe.

1 thought on “On sucking cock”

  1. Seen in Just Shower Thoughts this morning: “Guys complain that girls don’t like giving them oral sex, yet “Go suck a dick” is used as an insult.”

    The one who actually sucks the cock, female or male, is usually shamed because the receiver feels shame and guilt for temporarily conceding control in exchange for a bit of carnal pleasure. In our society, giving or receiving pleasure must be accompanied by an “appropriate” amount of shame and guilt so someone must take the blame and bear the brunt of that shame and guilt.

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