Here is a question I’ve pondered from time to time — Is autofellatio a homosexual act or an advanced masturbation technique? I’m inclined to favor the latter viewpoint. Why should any sexual act need to be defined in relation to the genders of the participants? Regardless of who is doing what to whom, who is giving, or who is receiving, it’s basically still sex and sex usually boils down to anal sex, vaginal sex, oral sex (cunnilingus, fellatio, or analingus) or masturbation. Everything else is some variation of those. Who owns the genitals, anus, mouth, or fingers being used is immaterial as long as everyone is (legally) consenting and enjoying it.
Our species has the capacity to enjoy sexual pleasure; it’s a blessing. If sex were only meant for procreation, it would be a much more utilitarian process and we’d have mating seasons much like other animals. Despite what our religions and the moralists tell us, we have evolved to have the capacity to enjoy sex if we simply put aside the cultural indoctrination against it. I’m confounded by the idea that enjoying the gifts your god has bestowed upon you is viewed as sinful. I find your religion and your god to be very irrational and dysfunctional.
I really don’t see the need attach labels to our sexuality based upon who we have sex with and how. I feel the same about how we label our sexual identities – gay, lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual, trans-gender, asexual,, et cetera. The idea that we need to have a label for everything and to narrow everything down to just a few distinct categories is disturbing.
The world is not just a lot of binary choices: black or white, gay or straight, male or female, Christian or heathen, Muslim or infidel, Republican or Democrat, liberal or conservative. Nearly everything in our world falls somewhere between the extremes and it’s that space in between that is the most interesting and the most wonderful. Instead of focusing all of our energies on the extremes and on the differences that separate us, we need to look at what lies within those infinite shades of gray and appreciate the commonalities and the things the connect us all.
Like it or not, agree with it or not, we are all connected to one other, to our planet, and to our Universe. Acknowledging and working with these connections is the key to our survival as a society and as a species. Our belief in our separateness will doom us to bringing about our own extinction.